I got a couple text message yesterday morning. When I was awakened by my cell phone beeping, I automatically assumed it was Rob sending me something random. I almost rolled over and went back to sleep with the thought of checking the phone later. For some reason, though, I did actually pick up the phone and was quite surprised to see that it was from a girl I had not talked to in months. Specifically, she is the ex-wife of one of my friends.
I have not really had the desire to talk to her since their divorce, because of the reasons behind the divorce, along with some of the stuff Rob and I discovered, and are still discovering that she did. I was afraid I would not be able to keep a civil and neutral tone with her. I was afraid I would go on a long rant about how manipulative she was.
However, when I got the text messages, it was a simple request. Had I talked to her ex recently? She had been trying to get a hold of him in to ask him for some information for her tax return. Despite the reasons for our silence, I decided to answer. Yes, I had recently talked to him, but not for a week or so. If I was able to get a hold of him, I would let him know she was trying to reach him. I later remembered that he was out of town and suggested that might be the reason he had not answered.
Chances were, and I confirmed this earlier, he was deliberately ignoring her. He is still bitter about what happened, and I cannot really blame him. However, I am kind of torn. She was a friend at one point, and despite the obvious tension, there are still some good memories. If she really needs help, I would probably do what I could to assist her, within reason of course. Despite everything she has done, I cannot hold the grudge. And it is wrong for me to. Forgiveness is a key part of what I believe. If I cannot forgive someone who has wronged me, how can I expect to be forgiven for the wrongs I have committed?
Luckily, she seemed content with my explanation earlier about him being out of town. I am not sure what I will say if she contacts me again. I will have to admit that he wants nothing to do with her. It will be a simple and honest thing to admit, but not something I look forward to saying.